a question for all you men...is chivalry dead?

[Riot]

i agree with this. if you're going to like mcdonalds theres no need

Okay, now what if you don't bring them back to Mcdonalds, but you meet them in the ballpit?

[HeavyMetal]

mcdonalds isnt a romantic dinner?

i better step up my game

dude. right there with you.

[Pdwighty]

We live in new England, only have summer for a rainy 3 months. It's an industrial buisness area where a lot of people are miserable which they unfortunately take out on others. That being said, I always try to open the door, help with holding things, and act proper (classy) in public. But I'm not going to run around the vehicle and shove myself infront of my gf before she opens the door at Walmart or while wheeling. There is a difference in babying someone and being a gentleman. A lot of modern America is just to ignorant to care about image.

[Lawn Guyland]

dude. right there with you.

I retract my original statement about you.

[Nick]

We live in new England, only have summer for a rainy 3 months. It's an industrial buisness area where a lot of people are miserable which they unfortunately take out on others.

Industrial Business area? Southern New England is one of the most pathetic economies in the nation. CT was once the mecca of industry, but those days are long gone.

I get what you're saying though. People are generally unhappy in this region.

[Trailer Ray]

i have to agree with nick, it goes along with class in general. and also with cherokeeat16, i think peoples manners and whats acceptable behavior nowadays is way different than what it used to be. christ, people are breaking up with people on facebook and theres companies that will end relationships for you .its fucking absolute nonsense. ive always been a gentleman and had good manners, especially around women, with the exception of the people im with or around (i swear like a sailor). i was raised by a single mom which probably contributed to my respect and courtesy towards women especially, but people in todays society have a much different attitude and outlook on what chivalry is.

[clean4drxj]

this is exactly how I feel. I make an effort to be a respectable person anywhere I go. if I walk in a store, I turn around to see if anyone is coming so that I can hold the door. The sad thing is eeehhh, 50%? of the time people dont say thank you. Then I make it a point to make sure they are aware of their rudeness.
There is just such a huge lack of common courtesy its sickening.

I 100% agree with this

[Buffalo Phil]

I think chivalry goes right along with having class in general.

And sadly, class is something that is becoming harder and harder to find in people now-a-days.

I know I always make an effort to have class in public and act properly, especially when my girlfriend is with me.

This exactly. It's about class and how much of a gentleman you are. I went on a date once and the girl I took out said I was the only guy that ever held the door for her or ever let her walk through the doorway first when we were walking together or to even open the car door for her when by the vehicle.

She told me she found someone else two weeks later, so clearly my chivalry won me no points.

Chivalry isn't dead, it's just the people in the North East are so fucking self centered that they cannot be bothered to do such things.

[Bluewarrior7]

I always hold doors for people, men and women alike. Not necessarily chivalrous but just the way I was brought up I guess. If I'm at a stop light and someone is trying to pull out of a driveway on the side I'll let them in. Just like I'll let someone in my lane that wants to get into it. I guess for me chivalry = common courtesy. I don't think men open doors for women anymore now that they invented keyless entry.

[LittleD]

I pretty much always show common courtesy towards other people. If im walking into somewhere and i see some one going in/coming out i hold the door just like i would want if i were in there shoes. I have completely different manners when im with my close friends compared to when im in a public place, and i deff. show class when im around any women/young children.

The way i see it is i'll show everybody how well i was brought up until you do something that is completely uncalled for, then it's complete asshole mood.

[cherokee-at-16]

I think the two ideas floating around here need to be split. Its common courtesy not to let a door swing back and hit the person behind you and let someone coming out, out before you go in.

Chivalry is more opening the door and letting someone walk in before you. And IMO has to when referring to actions toward a women. There are exceptions of course.

But I don't hold the door open the same way for everyone. Which differs based on whether its common courtesy or chivalry.

[ct67_72]

Chivalry isn't dead, it's just the people in the North East are so fucking self centered that they cannot be bothered to do such things.

This is also very true. I lived in Virginia for a short time and its a different world. Hell the first time I tok my wife to Florida someone walking down the street randomly asked how she was doing and she was so confused she diddnt answer. I said, whats wrong with you someone was asking you how you are and you ignored them. She thought that they wanted something or to sell her something, and couldnt comprehend someone could actually just be courteous enough to ask lol.
Everyone around here thinks that they are so important they cant possibly have time to hold the door, or get off of their phone for that matter.

[Zullock Holmes]

someone was listening to elvis duran

[Buffalo Phil]

This is also very true. I lived in Virginia for a short time and its a different world. Hell the first time I tok my wife to Florida someone walking down the street randomly asked how she was doing and she was so confused she diddnt answer. I said, whats wrong with you someone was asking you how you are and you ignored them. She thought that they wanted something or to sell her something, and couldnt comprehend someone could actually just be courteous enough to ask lol.
Everyone around here thinks that they are so important they cant possibly have time to hold the door, or get off of their phone for that matter.

That mentality spawns from the Cities, especially New York City. where everyone has a place to be by a specific time or their world will come to a crashing halt. Last time I went into the city I threw my bag into the back of a Taxi Cab and I got out and right as I went to undo the latch for the rear the guy started to drive away. Luckily, I yell extremely loud and the guy stopped immediately when I yelled "WHERE THE FUCK ARE YOU GOING?".

[Hydra]

I am a gentleman to everyone I meet, once an individual doesn't show me the same courtesy, free game for assholery.